Years ago, in my endless quest to become a more fun person, I found a group of really fun people in London. In this case I met them through a friend some years ago. And almost all of them speak Spanish, and know many Spanish and Latino customs.
I don't know why I thought I could fit in with the group -- as far as speaking Spanish I was struggling but doing fairly well in my opinion. But there were always going to be other things, from in-jokes, to things expected of house guests, that I would miss. At best it would cause me some awkwardness and a little isolation in an otherwise cracking multi-party conversation; at worst I would lose a few friend-acquaintances over perceived rudeness and ingratitude.
But lacking a 'posse' where I live (and lived in London), they were probably the closest thing I had to such. I've tried it a couple times before and have always felt a little odd -- not blogging as much as the rest, not geeking out as much as the rest, not drinking as much as the rest, not having Nepali as my first language, and so on.
Well, sure, posses aren't for everyone. But I still do feel 'left out' when I see groups (and that particular one as well) having a great time on (where else) Facebook. Almost rubs it in my face that I can't seem to get it right in a 'group setting' at all, with the -- almost sad -- exception of probably work.
Next thing they'll say it's the 21st century and IRL posses are over-rated...
Oh hey . . .
2 years ago
